Saturday, November 22, 2014

The "Mechanic's of Style?"

I'm always fascinated by the detail involved with a person's style and or fashion sense. How the smallest addition of an accessory such as a scarf, belt or jewelry can send the rest of your outfit into the dumpster-or over the top.

Earlier in the week we did have a conversation here in Cyrsti's Condo about the power of a mirror-good and bad.  Face it, if you want to do the girl thing, you have to have some sort of intimate relationship with your mirror.  Of course, if you let it-it will lie to you.  On the other hand the mirror is a necessary and even fun part of being a cross dresser and/or transgender woman.

For what it's worth-here are my basics, before I get to the mirror.
  1. First, who are you dressing for? I dress for women and to "blend". What will the majority of generics be wearing where I am going.
  2. Secondly, I consider if I can afford the fashions I'm looking at.  Normally no, but I have developed a very good system of "value/discount" shopping.
  3. Then, I have to consider if the fashion would look good on my body type at all, or if I would ever wear it.  For example, I may love a pair of business professional slacks or blazer but would never wear it.
  4. Plus, can I find items in my size.  I can't diet enough to wear many of the trends I see on pencil thin young models but I can adapt a variation.  A good source for me has been the "Fabulous after 40" fashion site.
  5. Finally, I try to maintain a basic wardrobe of seasonal "classics" which aren't likely to change before I can wear them out from use.
This is definitely a chic combo, leather jacket & boots with a pop of color. Definitely a #FallFashion must-have look!My biggest "guilty" pleasures though are accessories such as earrings, necklaces, scarves and purses. If there is any way to get your ears pierced-I would recommend it!  Somehow, I discovered I had a hidden knack for adding items to my outfits which give them a little pizzazz. 

Let's take this outfit to the left as an example.  I have a black leather jacket I bought in the spring at a deep discount price.  Scarves similar to this cost 1.29 at Goodwill (discount).  The top could be a "treasure" from the same store at 3.29.  The leggings I bought for 8.99 at a well known "Dollar" store and my boots are from last year. 

The positives for me are this look, "lengthens" me and deflects my thick upper torso as much as possible. Plus of course it keeps me warm and accentuates my legs and thighs (a positive.)

What I would not do would be to wrap the scarf like this and let it fall down the front of me.  I don't want to add more upper bulk and again lengthen my look.  The problem I have is finding tops which fall this far to my hips.

Finally, this is where my much maligned "too long hair" for a woman my age BS comes into play.  Again, I'm tall and can wear my hair longer and when it drapes over my shoulders it helps to cover my thick and short neck.

So, there you go kids.  I know I don't write much about my fashion and what I wear much.  That does not mean I don't take intense pride in trying to do it right.  It's just one of the "girl things" which are fun when it all comes together.  You can always blame your mirror when it doesn't.  I see plenty of generics who should too!

Womanless Beauty Pageant "Amateurs?"

GurlAmateur, by my definition means a person who does not seriously pursue a certain interest, job or hobby.  Ever sense Cyrsti's Condo hit the internet, the seemingly unlimited pictures we see at times of participants in womanless beauty pageants fall into a couple categories:  those guys who are truly cross dressing for fun  and those who just may have tried it before-or could again. 

Since rarely do we ever have an answer, sweet speculation adds a bit of spice to the process!

Womanless event

Gender Fluxing and Other "Stuff"

Such a week!  I went from leggings, boots and my fun new blue nail polish on Wednesday, to selling a couple heavy pieces of vintage furniture Thursday and back to my new green polish today. (Saturday)

The more I "flux" the harder it is of course.  At times, I think the whole process comes under the "cruel and unusual" punishment.  On the other hand, I know that there is little I can do about it except keep on doing what I am doing...and stop my whining! No problem I have ever occurred was solved by laying in a corner whimpering about it. 

I'm working diligently towards my transgender goals and that is all that matters- except the results from my doctor Tuesday.  My health is everything of course!

Plus, there is a veritable "ton" of stuff coming up before Christmas to do, including a Laverne Cox (left) appearance at a nearby university in  December.

Finally, as I think about it, what is a transgender goal anyhow?  Undoubtedly, a subject for a later post!

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Left Over Coffee

Yesterday here in Cyrsti's Condo I re posted a comment Stana received on her Femulate site.  I can only speculate from afar on what motivated what turned out of be a very pessimistic one sided look at a cross dresser's life. 
One sided from the aspect (among other things) that pure appearance is the primary and only end goal to dressing like generics.

Paula Goodwin commented on Femulate and here with one of the most classic comments I have ever read about a trans girl's relationship with her mirror:
"There are now quite a few very good comments (including mine) on Stana's original post, so I will limit myself here. I generally now use my mirror to check that I have put things on in the right place, I then ask myself two questions, "Could I go to Tescos like this?" and my golden rule "Will I frighten the horses?"  (Every time I read this golden rule Paula, I normally almost pee myself laughing!)

There have been occasions in the past where my mirror has lied to me, the photos have told me that I got it wrong. As for the hair thing, oh if only I could."

And Mandy:  "Amen on the long locks, sister! The only real grief I've gotten about them (mostly when I was working, not much since I retired) was from "follicly-challenged" males - translation: bald or balding!"

True Mandy, a touch of jealousy may just be creeping in!  It's important to note though, form my angle, I never have taken my ability to grow all this hair lightly-until I have to go through the contortions to care for it!

I have an idea (of course) from where this person was coming from in my next post.

A Life in Gender Flux