Pat had a great comment for me not long ago, which for the life of me, I can't find. (No real surprise!)
In a post, I was mentioning my need to carry a "feminine hygiene product" in my purse in case I was asked by another woman for one in the restroom. She said something to the point of who would even ask me at my age? Of coursed I loved it!
Her age comment does bring me to another point though- age appropriate dressing. It's a huge deal for many genetic women as they have the need to cut their hair shorter every year and seemingly go out of their way to ignore every younger fashion trend.
The length of my hair alone takes me out of the 60+ female age category I'm in. In other words, I don't blend. By the time a genetic woman gets to my age (or vice versa) she has beaten her hair into submission over the years and her hormone levels are decreasing. Plus of course, hair is only a small part of the problem. To help me, I am a follower of the Fabulous after 40 fashion site and on a recent update, here was the question:
Of all the questions my readers send me, the one I seem to get the most is a variation on the theme of age-appropriate dressing: “Can I wear short skirts/low-cut tops/bikinis/etc. at my age?”;“Does this make me look like I’m trying hard to be young?”; “Does this make me look old?”
If you follow the link above, you can find many pictures plus possible answers to the question. As a transgender woman who didn't get a chance to transition until later in life, I'm seeking some sort of a middle ground. I don't want to regress to my days of being the cross dresser in the mall squeezed into a mini and heels but I do want to squeeze enough style and fashion into what's left of my active life.
I'm lucky. Over the years, I did take the time as a guy to give a little extra love to my skin. Between genetics, HRT, make up and smoke and mirrors, I can take a few visual years off my life. In fact in some situations I threaten people with my ID to show them how old I really am.
Finally, the problem I know I have (along with so many other cross dressers or transgender women) is looking like I'm trying too hard. The only difference is I have two hurdles - age and gender.