I don't pretend to play or think in the arena of transgender icon's such as Janet Mock who recently released a new book called Redefining Realness. Of course, her recent interview with Piers Morgan stirred up controversy as did Katie Couric with Laverne Cox and Carmen Carerra. Both Morgan and Couric to a degree wanted to focus on the mechanics of transition rather than the person involved.
My question is, isn't that a huge reason we can't get along well in our own community? How many times have you seen me use the term Trans Nazi to describe someone who feels they should move to the head of the line just because of money expended and pain suffered? I know for sure, there have been cross dressers who have felt I would be the same way, simply because I live a feminine life; and let's not forget the usual genitalia questions I always get. So, I guess I'm in the same boat and did all the uproar help me?
That's the world today, right? What's in it for me? Don't get me wrong. I get sick and tired of being asked about what is between my legs, I can only imagine what it would be like for Carmen, Janet or Laverne. I do find it positive they all pushed back.
I'm not naive enough to think the world will get to a point where we can be defined as women and not transgender women anytime soon. We still have too much ground to cover and in my case, I will never be able to take the "trans" off my identity. Sixty plus years of male dominated living is simply too much to overtake. Then again who cares? Sure, there will always be the haters. The Rad Femme Lesbians or Trans Nazi's probably won't go away in my lifetime. Then again, do I care? Not so much. I'm selfish. I just want to navigate the world as closely to a woman as I can. It is quite the liberating experience for me and I will fight like hell to keep it.
Yes, on occasion all the transgender icon's do help me. In fact more of the world is now educated to the fact there are more of me than they thought and I'm very real. In the end, we are just trying to live our lives the best we know and along the way, we are all similar to Janet Mock.
We are simply redefining what realness is to us.