Well, today marks the end of a crazy thirty days or so in my life. During the time, I managed to finally publish "Stiletto's on Thin Ice", attend the Trans Ohio Symposium (and present a work shop) jump genders for my family once and let's not forget- a couple of mammograms tossed in.
TGLBQ Pride day today marks the end of my current attempt to catch my tail here in Columbus, Ohio. Pat sent in a comment which rang true to me, for probably the wrong reasons. The comment was another which went into "never-never" land the other day, but paraphrased she (Pat) said something to the effect of me being the "lone transgender woman" in the crowd. My first reaction was "Wow! I hope not." Then, as I started to think about it, Pat was right to speculate I may be the only "out and visible" trans woman. Realistically, I'm sure everyone I run into is not going to think I was born genetic. Just as realistically, do I expect a stealth attractive transgender woman coming up to me to chat? No. Would I venture a guess and start a conversation with a person I thought was a transgender woman? Probably not.
Plus, as I have said a number of times, after the parade is over today, my friends and I will be headed to lesbian venues- which brings up a whole different dynamic. As you know, I do have some experience partying with lesbians and in my view, pretty much go out of their way to steer clear of another woman they perceive to be in a partnership. On the other hand, since I have been forced into action as one of my friend's wing girl I'm beginning to understand the basics of the hunt. On a very few occasions, when I was left unattended I became the hunt-only I think because I bring more than a little spice to the adventure. (It's also rumored I am a HUGE flirt.)
So Pat, I'm afraid you could be right. I will say the Trans Ohio group (who will have a presence in the parade) is becoming stronger and more organized all the time but so far they still are dominated by trans men-which is good by me. Many of who I perceive to be trans women in the organization still don't make eye contact with me. But, if I go back not so long ago, I wouldn't make eye contact with me either.
Plus, there is the age card. However you want to cut it, the age difference in those young trans women I may meet is a major problem. Outside of gender preference, we just don't share much.
As far as those entitled cis gay males and drag queens go - no harm no foul-unless someone calls me the Tr---gender slur!
The way it's looking, I am writing this Friday, posting it Saturday and will get back with all of you hopefully Sunday!