Nearly every time I post a picture or story here in Cyrsti's Condo I get a fairly terse and bitter response on how a Trans Activist such as say Janet Mock's ( beautiful example) public exposure has nothing to do with those of us still mocked and/or discriminated against because of our appearance.
It's a good point and one I found addressed in a recent Huffington Post article. Of course I have my own ideas like I'm sure you do. First of all, what are your expectations of the feminine role you are transitioning into? This time, lets use Mtf transgender woman Carmen Carerra as an example (left). Look, I know there is not enough surgery, HRT or wishing in the world I am ever going to look like Carmen. Then again too, I could say the same thing about most all of the generics I know. As females growing up though, all of them managed to transition to womanhood becoming beauties in their own rights. What Carmen Carerra did do for me (as well as Janet Mock, Laverne Cox etc.) was scream to the world GENDER is NOT about GENITALS. Which means to me a huge amount. It's helped me to carry myself with a little extra confidence as I transition into my womanhood.
In Courtney O'Donnell's post she said it (in part) this way after trans woman Jenna Talackova burst upon the scene: "In the weeks that followed, the number of people visiting my blog via the keyword "Jenna Talackova" was simply stunning. That keyword outdistanced the previous high by a factor of 3. The people drawn to these pro-transgender blogs were given an opportunity to learn things -- human things -- they may not learn elsewhere."
So, yes we have discussed attitude over appearance in the Condo when it comes to the public and if you don't have a nasty personality to start with-each of us can make a huge statement in small ways. Beautiful or not, I am going to pick the women I mentioned above to be on my team!
Just one other quick point, make sure to think past your male ego past and look past the pictures or looks and listen!