Yesterday, on Femulate, Stana posted a picture from one of her readers named Allison. When Allison described the picture she said (in part) - It was taken by the fabulous Amanda Richards at True Colors Makeup Artistry in Pennsylvania and "The reason I think it's one of the best (of my pix) is my wife went to the photo shoot with me and I could her gasp for air when I came out of the dressing room; I knew I looked great." I believe we all agree! Which brings me to my point.
What is more threatening to a generic spouse, when her hubby comes out of the dressing room looking like Allison or when hubby begins to begins to really begin to pick up a feminine persona-with out so called cross dressing at all?
I know, it's an impossible question crossing so many gender and relationship boundaries- for sure- an easy answer is impossible too.
All I can do is pass along my own personal ideas. No matter how I looked, my wife made no secret she was not fond of my girl self. Looking back, I don't blame her but again that is another blog post. What did happen was, on occasion I could play with the "A" listers who were natural cross dressers-like Allison. It took me years to figure out femininity indeed was more than skin deep.
Just guessing but the slower mtf gender transition may have a better chance of surviving in a relationship. After all, women are very curious and competitive critters.