Wednesday, February 22, 2017

"Lazy versus "Blending?"

Everyday I have to put together a new outfit or put on my makeup to get ready to go out, I am envious of cis women (even though I have willingly entered their world.)

For one, if I am going anywhere I will face the public at all, I have to put my best feminine face forward. I am very fortunate in that I have the process down to a half hour.

I operate on the cusp of a very sharp double edged sword. At the best I came into to this ultra serious game at the best marginally presentable. These days without the help of surgery and with the help of hormones (HRT) I can navigate the world. Most importantly I have to look like I'm not trying-like any other cis woman.

I guess if I had any advice, practice makes perfect and don't get discouraged. No matter how hard you try, there most likely someone who will "sniff" you out and make your business their business. These days too, a sizable percentage of people are attracted to your transgender-ness. Sort of like the drive thru window girl yesterday who commented on my "LGBT rainbow ring." She liked it :)

I am not a proponent either of cis women who let themselves go which in the slightly upscale area I live in, I don't see many.

On the other hand, I attended one of Liz's weight loss classes Saturday and saw my share of cis women dressed in workout garb. I am not quite to that point in my dressing to blend development. The fun part was no one paid my much attention. They were more impressed I came as her support person than if I was or wasn't transgender.

Finally, no matter how grumpy I am, I need to carry Connie's famous accessory..."FFS" . A fast and friendly smile. Especially if I am going out before my morning coffee!


  1. I'd give you a pass on the smile until AFTER you'd gotten your coffee. One can only expect so much of any girl!

    I remember a scene in an old movie, "The Detective", with Frank Sinatra and Lee Remick (had a girl crush on her). I think he was late for dinner, and she was a bit upset about it. She'd gotten herself all fixed up for him, anyway. He clumsily tried to compliment her on how she looked and told her how natural her look was. Her reply was that it takes a lot more time and effort to look natural. All these years later, I certainly find that to be true for myself.

  2. I have no had a "TransPALS" sticker on the back of my van, and have yet to have anybody comment!


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